A question I have heard many times as a counselor is: “Is this abuse?” It is a common one that people ask themselves when they are trying to understand what is going on in a relationship that just feels wrong. It is also common for people to ask family and friends.
A short answer to the question might be, “yes it probably is,” if the client is asking that question. However, it also isn’t that simple. There are many ways that people describe it when something is unhealthy in a relationship, and also many ways for others to interpret it.